Posts Tagged ‘relationships’

I love A.C.R.O.N.Y.M.S.!

January 19, 2011 Leave a comment

It’s always interesting to see younger people text on their phone’s and on facebook. (wow, I am making myself sound old.) It’s almost as if they are typing in codes and acronyms. Personally, I keep my acronym use simple. If it’s not BLT, BBQ, USA, GI I probably don’t use them. So, I am going to challenge myself to create a new one. It’s a long one, but I might be able to get something good out of it.

I have been thinking a lot about the relationships we create with those around us. My last few posts have revolved around the idea of being real with others. Obviously this is a key ingredient to any good relationship. So, let’s see if I can get an acronym out of RELATIONSHIP.

R – Real. Relationships are and need to be real. The authenticity of your relationships often will say a lot about you. For example if you have surface relationships, you are probably a person who doesn’t like to open up. However, the opposite is true. If your relationships run deep, then you are a person who is not afraid to be vulnerable and to be real with others.

E -Easy. I have found the more real I become with those around me, the easier my life is. If I spend all my energy trying to create a facade or to hide who I really am, I become exhausted, frustrated and really I become a person that is no longer likeable.

L – Love. Relationships are all about the love. It’s because that God loved us that we may also love. It’s one of the greatest things we have been given.

A -Accepting. This might be a harder one. I want to make a distinction accepting is not enabling. Accept the person for who they are. You don’t need to accept what they do, but any relationship is built by getting past the little things that drive us up the wall, but understand that we are all sinners in need of a savior.

T -Truth. All relationships are based on truth. You won’t last in relationship built on false realities or lies. It’s those close relationships especially which are built on the notion that I am not going to be someone other than who I really am.

I -Inspiration. A good relationship is always inspirational. Why else do we “ooh” and “awww” when we hear about an old couple celebrating 50 years of marriage. It gives us great hope in our relationships.

O -Ornery. A good relationship has much laughter in it. Someone who likes to have fun will always have a great relationship.  Laughter generates something special inside us. It gives us new light on a day and eases our spirits in hard day.

N -No. The best relationships carries can carry the weight of love. Even when that love demands you stand up to something that is bound to tear that relationship apart. It gives you the peace of mind to say no to someone who needs to hear it without breaking the relationship apart.

S -Spiritual. Relationships are spiritual. Christ came to this earth and built relationships. He came to tell the  truth, but the relationships he had could get through anything.

H -Hope. Hope brings a bright future. Relationships provide hope. It’s about knowing that those people who are closest will be there for you through anything. They bring hope when everything else seems so dark.

I -Isolation. If you have ever felt alone, a good relationship will bring you out of isolation. It gives you assurance that you are never alone. We were not meant to love in isolation and therefore we have been given a great opportunity to connect with people whom we know will always be there.

P – Perseverance. Good relationships endure just about anything. Even in Christs last moments, his followers denied him, we know that there is always forgiveness to be found. It’s satans goal to think that relationships weren’t meant to with stand pressure, but sure enough they can with stand anything.


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Reaching the Masses

November 9, 2010 Leave a comment

I love all the conversation about how to effectively minister to so many people at once. Think about this…20 years ago, we could only minister to people whom we were seeing face to face. Hopefully most of you are old enough to remember this time. It was just shortly after the dinosaurs disappeared.

Anyways, nowadays things are very different. We reach people in a number of ways. We reach people through email, through Facebook, through twitter, through blogs and you tube posts, etc. Are any of these effective though? Well, maybe. I think the online world has given us the opportunity to spread a few more seeds. What I mean is we used to have to hand sprinkle the seeds as we went along. Now, the internet has given us an opportunity to utilize a spreader! Ah yes, a giant seed spreader!

Don’t get me wrong, nothing can or should ever replace human contact. I believe that we should really be making our greatest impacts in this way. How can we use both methods effectively? That is the real question.

You probably all have friends and acquaintances that dabble in the online world. Reach out them and then bring them in to real face to face contact. You see, this is the core of the who we are. It’s about the ability to build relationships with one another. It’s sharing the good news with the person right in front of you.

If you are lost in the online world, its time you made contact with flesh and blood. It’s time you responded to how God created you. He did not create you to be alone. And yes, even though you have 800 friends on Facebook, it is possible for you to be alone. We are meant to live in community, we are meant to be in the presence of other people who can know more about us than our activities, our likes and our political and religious view and of course our latest relationship status.

If you are in the Grand Island area, or if you have friends who need to be with people, tell them about our next Group Connection Event on December 12th. Just click on the Group Connection link above. It’s time to show them what real relationships are all about!

Three truths in getting on with your life

Maybe I’m the only one, but I get so caught up in the latest Dr. Phil guest or maybe its the latest breakdown of some celebrity. My heart goes to these people but it’s clear to me that they don’t know how to move on. Tragedy can strike any of us at any moment, but how we handle it is what separates us.  When we learn from those experiences is what makes us grow. So, let’s grow! I have found there are three fundamental truths to dealing with something especially if that something causes distress in my relationships.

Truth #1 – I cannot change the past.

No matter how I hard I try, I cannot change my past. It’s a done deal. No matter how much I bring it up, no matter how much I scream and yell about it, its as set in stone as something can get. Where does that leave me if I can’t change the past? I can only look forward.

(Luke 9:62, Philippians 3:12)

Truth #2 – You can only move forward.

What’s more natural when you get in your car? Driving forward in in reverse? By and large most everyone will say driving forward, unless you’ve joined the circus as the incredible reverse driver..its Nascar backwards! The point it, you need to move forward. You have less control when you attempt going backwards and things can get very messy. Learn from your past, learn from the mistakes you have made and move forward. Be willing to take the leap of faith that it will take to make your next step, the right step. Get in sync with God and you won’t regret it.

(Isaiah 43:18-19, Philippians 3:12-14, Luke 9:23)

Truth #3 – I can only change myself

This truth came to light as I was reading  about King David. He tried so hard to fix his situation by involving more people. What happened? People ended up dead and he ended up on the floor before God. This is often the hardest truth to grasp. Many times, especially in a marriage context, we want to try to change our spouse. We can’t. They can only change themselves. I tell couples in counseling that while I can give them reason why they should change, I can’t make them change. They have to want the change. We all hold the power to our own destiny. We have the power to make the next decision. How will you make yours?

(Ephesians 5:1, Colossians 3:1-17)

So, to recap these three truths, You cannot change the past, you can only move forward and you can only change yourself. When life gets rough, remember these truths and navigate through it carefully. Do not hesitate to call upon God when you need him most. HE is there!