Posts Tagged ‘Life’

LIFE in marriage

August 3, 2011 1 comment

Ever since TCCC introduced LIFE Groups, this has what I have shaped my ministry around. I have been as intentional as I can with making sure we have a proper path for every adult to: Live for Christ, Inspire others in their lifestyle, Fellowship with the body, and Encourage others in their faith. I believe, this is a great model for everyday life for any individual. It’s a challenge to acknowledge what we are doing with our life and making sure it is on course with what Christ wants from those who follow him.

At the same time, I am passionate about fruitful marriages. Not just those that produce children, while a blessing, I am talking about the type of marriage that leaves a legacy. So how does LIFE fit into this kind of marriage? Well, I was inspired this morning to write on this to clarify the issue.

What is LIFE in marriage? I read an article that talked about how mens and womens ministry, while productive and allow for in depth accountability, don’t help couples learn to live together. I think to a point this is true. The primary issue I see here locally though is the fact that for every 4 women involved in women’s ministry, there is 1 guy. This is a problem.

I enjoyed the fact that at the end of the VBS program at TCCC last week, Scott said to the crowd something like, “We love teaching your kids, but you need to be the spiritual leaders.” I knew that he was talking straight to the fathers in that room. It’s true in the USA that more women attend church and get involved in their church then men do. Why is this? Men are too busy doing the real important things like working and mowing and not taking advantage of their time to be the spiritual leader.

So LIFE in marriage becomes more of a need than ever. This model in our marriages becomes influential to those around us and causes us to turn to God’s word as opposed to ESPN. What does LIFE in marriage look like? It looks like this: Living for Christ, Inspiring others through our marriage, Fellowship with other couples in the body, and Encouraging young couples in their faith and in their marriage.

LIFE in marriage is not just what I say you should do, or even what some of the preacher says for you to do. In fact, a good pastor will never convince you to do anything that originates from them. They are only a tool and mouthpiece for the Word of God. They want to introduce you to living out what the Bible has called us to.

When both men and women take their marriage seriously, they will realize that their marriage is bigger then both of them combined. Marriage is bigger than two people who love each other, but it is about two people entering into a covenant with God. This covenant allows us to live a life that defies what the world says about marriage and shows that while marriage takes work, it is in fact the greatest way two people can experience God.

The Old Testament writers who spoke of marriage understood this. Did you know the Hebrew word for marriage is also the same for “Holiness”? Think about this. What does this mean for your marriage? Take time this fall to work together in your marriage. Break the trend of fewer and fewer men being involved in the church. Take charge of the spiritual leadership of your home. Jesus said it best when describing the greatest leaders, “The greatest is the least.” In otherwords, be a servant of your family and you will be a great leader.


Community is Everything

November 10, 2010 Leave a comment

The last week has been full of conversations about life, death, marriage, divorce, and everything that might in between. In all this, I have realized once again how much of a need we all have for community. We have a need for friends that understand our needs. We have a need for companions who are with us through thick and thin. Whatever state of life we are in, community is everything. I have attended two funerals in the last 4 days. In the midst of these funerals I have had several conversations about life and death.

Life is always worth living, but then again, most of us know this. Whether we are in a season of loss and grief or in a season of joy and laughter. Life is a gift from our Creator and a gift that we should hold carefully each and every day. However, a life lived without the joy of sharing it with another is no life at all. Life in isolation is not a life living up to its design.

All life does come to an end and its in that end that we truly discover what life was all about. Whether we are reading an obituary of events gone by or if we are reminiscing about a parent or a friend or a loved one and all the good times, we know that life is finally realized when it is too late. Those whom we join together with in this life are too often taken for granted until they are gone. Then we realize the emptiness that a friend who is no longer their leaves behind.

Community is everything. If you are not sharing this life with others, think about how you want to be remembered. Do you want to be remembered as someone who shared their life with others or as someone who wasn’t really known? Now’s the time to become exactly who Christ intended you to be. Now is the time to discover what life is all about!

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