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Three truths in getting on with your life

Maybe I’m the only one, but I get so caught up in the latest Dr. Phil guest or maybe its the latest breakdown of some celebrity. My heart goes to these people but it’s clear to me that they don’t know how to move on. Tragedy can strike any of us at any moment, but how we handle it is what separates us.¬† When we learn from those experiences is what makes us grow. So, let’s grow! I have found there are three fundamental truths to dealing with something especially if that something causes distress in my relationships.

Truth #1 – I cannot change the past.

No matter how I hard I try, I cannot change my past. It’s a done deal. No matter how much I bring it up, no matter how much I scream and yell about it, its as set in stone as something can get. Where does that leave me if I can’t change the past? I can only look forward.

(Luke 9:62, Philippians 3:12)

Truth #2 – You can only move forward.

What’s more natural when you get in your car? Driving forward in in reverse? By and large most everyone will say driving forward, unless you’ve joined the circus as the incredible reverse driver..its Nascar backwards! The point it, you need to move forward. You have less control when you attempt going backwards and things can get very messy. Learn from your past, learn from the mistakes you have made and move forward. Be willing to take the leap of faith that it will take to make your next step, the right step. Get in sync with God and you won’t regret it.

(Isaiah 43:18-19, Philippians 3:12-14, Luke 9:23)

Truth #3 – I can only change myself

This truth came to light as I was reading¬† about King David. He tried so hard to fix his situation by involving more people. What happened? People ended up dead and he ended up on the floor before God. This is often the hardest truth to grasp. Many times, especially in a marriage context, we want to try to change our spouse. We can’t. They can only change themselves. I tell couples in counseling that while I can give them reason why they should change, I can’t make them change. They have to want the change. We all hold the power to our own destiny. We have the power to make the next decision. How will you make yours?

(Ephesians 5:1, Colossians 3:1-17)

So, to recap these three truths, You cannot change the past, you can only move forward and you can only change yourself. When life gets rough, remember these truths and navigate through it carefully. Do not hesitate to call upon God when you need him most. HE is there!


Great article

I hope to be able to provide you with great articles through the year. There are many people out there who are very passionate about Small Groups and Small Group Community. One of those is Rick Howerton, he is the Small Groups guru from Lifeway Christian Resources. This article is on the few elements of how group dynamics have changed and stayed the same over the years.

I hope you enjoy!

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