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Blurred Lines

How does one cope with the onset of an ideal which not that long ago was seen as wrong? With the changing of the seasons, this world brings new change to what we know, and to what we believe. At least it would like to think that its changing  everybody, but there are a few who are standing still. The lines in so many areas of our lives are being blurred. I see it the most in our understanding of marriage.

Whether it’s one man and one woman, or the roles of each, or maybe its the permissible lifestyles each takes on, marriage is no longer what it should be, sadly. It has become something that is almost undefinable, unclear and mostly unseen. Divorce rates have skyrocketed. Whether you are in or out of the church, you are not immune.

So what is marriage? While Webster has conveniently changed its definition from one man and one woman to two people, I will stick with the former. I will stand up to the way God has designed marriage to be and proud to say that anything else is wrong.

It’s safe to say that today’s marriage is all about me. If I am not happy, I have an out. I can marry who ever I want, regardless of their sex. While married, I can live however I want to live and my spouse should except me. It’s so me driven it no longer looks like marriage was originally intended.

Marriage once looked like one man and one woman. It once was more about holiness than happiness and striving to keep a clear focus on God who was at the center of the marriage. It was more about sacrifice and selfless love than anything else. It seems now all these are things of the past. But, they don’t need to be.

If we can just stand up for what is right, and live out our marriages the way God intended, we can show that there is more to it than just the sour “me attitude” that is like a wrecking ball in a china shop. Make your marriage more selfless than selfish. Marriage is black and white. While the Satan attempts to blur the lines, God defines them. It’s about time we take the blinders off and see what God is doing.

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  1. March 29, 2011 at 11:08 am

    Yeah Nick,

    We stand with you! One man, One woman in marriage until death do they part! Mark Driscoll, Pastor Mars Hill Church, Seattle, WA says in his Song of Solomon series that it takes 9-14 years in a marriage to lose your selfishness.

    MAY you & November and the younger generation learn to serve one another in marriage and make 1 + 1 + 1 (Christ in the Center) = 1 in marriage!

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