Archive for November, 2010

A Note for the Guys…part 2

November 30, 2010 Leave a comment

OK guys, my intention is to not beat you up, but to give you a little of a reality check.  Beginning in January, you’ll begin to hear more and more about Family Life’s Weekend to Remember. This marriage weekend getaway is an amazing opportunity to have candid talks with your wife about your marriage. Let me add this, attending a marriage conference like this does not mean that you are doing something wrong. What it means is you have the fundamental understanding that marriage is too hard to do alone. It means that you are committed to having a thriving marriage amongst your peers, and that you only want the best for your spouse and for your marriage.

I’ve talked to many people about the Weekend to Remember getaways and in more then a dozen conversations I’ve had with women, they say, “I’d love to go, but it’s a matter of my husband wanting to go to.” You see guys, here is your wake up call. Your wife wants YOU to take the lead here. She wants YOU to be the man that you are and be the spiritual leader for your family.

She can only drop so many hints before she feels like she is disrespecting you. She only wants to spend the time with you and to come closer physically, emotionally and spiritually. I’ve had conversations with enough guys and I know this can be a serious issue. We like to drag our feet on some of this stuff. Some guys might go as far as saying, “I said I love you at our wedding, why do I need to anything else. That alone should be good enough.” Sorry, my friend, you are wrong.

When you are investing in your marriage, you are giving your wife maybe the greatest gift she could receive. She recognizes that you are placing her above your football games, your hunting trips, and your work.

What’s my point? My point is begin today asking your self what you can do to make your marriage amazing? It’s time you invest in what is important.


Weekend to Remember is held annually in March. Getaway locations include:

Omaha – March 11-13, 2011
Lincoln – March 25-27, 2011

When you sign up using the group name “tccc” you will receive 50% off the total registration cost. Your cost for the registration will be $180! (Cost does NOT include hotel or food costs)

If you would like more information on how to get registered, please contact Nick at 384-5038.


A Note for the Guys…

November 29, 2010 Leave a comment

We’ve been in the depths of football season now for several weeks. It’s our favorite time of year! Championship games for College Football are in beginning this next week and in the pro’s things are just beginning to get interesting. You can bet I’ll be watching till my Packers get another Super Bowl ring!

This time of year is also very important for many wives. My wife is included in this. My weekends tend to revolved around the television and whether the game is on ABC, ESPN 1 or 2, or NFL Network. The few times I get up from there are for lunch and dinner and bedtime and church. Then I am back at it.

I’ve been challenging myself and others recently to think about whether we are doing everything we can for our wives. This doesn’t mean turning off the tv for good, but it means show your wife how much she is worth by putting her above your favorite team.  My bet is, she wants you to enjoy it, but she also wants you. She needs your help, and from time to time she needs you to leave behind the game (even though its tied in the 4th quarter with :45 left) and come help her.

In our house its becoming more and more like Christmas. My wife is amazing at turning our house in to a tasteful reminder of how sweet Christmas is. However, she needs my help. If she needs me to put some lights on the house, help with the Christmas tree, or start washing dishes so everything is right when the family comes, then I will.

You can ask my wife, I am not perfect at this, in fact she may not even know that I challenge myself with this thought very often, but its my duty and my privilege to give my wife the #1 spot over my team and my weekend.

If you are learning how to be more supportive to your wife, I recommend you read For Men Only by Jeff & Shaunti Feldhahn. They will give you great wisdom on what your wife needs from you. So whether you are in the first 5 years of marriage or you’ve been around the block a few times, these are insights you need to know about.

Giving Thanks in all Seasons

November 24, 2010 Leave a comment

I think the hardest part about the holiday season is when you are not with the people you want to share it with. I am not necessarily sure, however, that this is any different from other parts of the year. When people gather, you do tend to notice the holes. Maybe its someone who is out of town, or maybe just left for college, maybe you have experienced loss this year. Whatever it is I share the your sorrow with the hole your bear.

It is good though to understand this hole. Small Groups practices often encourage a meeting to leave an open chair. This is for multiple reasons. First, as a reminder that their work is not done. Someone may need to enveloped into the group in order to continue to grow. It’s also a good reminder that the seat is reserved for Christ. His seat is the most important.

As you celebrate this holiday season, I ask you if you the hole that has been left can be filled by Christ? I bet if you really let him come fill it for you, things will become right again. You could almost say it is a “God shaped hole.” Let’s celebrate the holidays with the good memories and celebrations that we have shared together, and let us rejoice in the fact that God is with us.

Are you climbing?

November 17, 2010 Leave a comment

Mountains. They are beautiful, majestic, rugged, and simply amazing. They are full of misleading ends. Here is what I mean by that. A misleading end is the place that you see in the very short distance that you feel is the end of your climb. You reach the spot only to find that you’ve only reached a small plateau. There is still much to climb. Just recently I was in the mountains and I am sure I came across at least 4 or 5 of these. Just when I thought the burn was done, I still had quite a climb ahead of me.

Press On

I also see it as people are climbing to Christ. They reach that same plateau and think that they are done. Not true. This is a climb or a journey we all must take and will last our who life. Are you still climbing? Or have you stopped? Maybe you are telling yourself, “I just need to sit down for a while and catch my breath.” Unfortunately, many who say these words end up sitting for years.

Our relationship with Christ does not function well with plateaus. We’re either moving up or down. Where are you? Maybe you’ve placed your faith in Christ, you’ve been baptized, you’ve repented but you thought to yourself, “that’s enough for now.” You’re only lying to yourself. If you’ve made it that far, you have only begun. All you’ve done is put your pack on. You haven’t even started the climb yet. I wonder how many people are actually standing around at the bottom with their packs on thinking about all they’ve accomplished so far.

If you’re in that group, I challenge you to start your climb. I promise you God will not let you down. Yes, it’s going to be hard, but it will be worth it. Look at the encouragement we recieve from Paul as he has begun his climb in his letter to the Philippians.

4 though I myself have reasons for such confidence.

If someone else thinks they have reasons to put confidence in the flesh, I have more: 5 circumcised on the eighth day, of the people of Israel, of the tribe of Benjamin, a Hebrew of Hebrews; in regard to the law, a Pharisee; 6 as for zeal, persecuting the church; as for righteousness based on the law, faultless.

7 But whatever were gains to me I now consider loss for the sake of Christ. 8 What is more, I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them garbage, that I may gain Christ 9 and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which is through faith in[a] Christ—the righteousness that comes from God on the basis of faith. 10 I want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, 11 and so, somehow, attaining to the resurrection from the dead.

12 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. (Bold/Italics added for emphasis)

Paul sees that he is far from his journey’s end. He presses on. We should too.

Community is Everything

November 10, 2010 Leave a comment

The last week has been full of conversations about life, death, marriage, divorce, and everything that might in between. In all this, I have realized once again how much of a need we all have for community. We have a need for friends that understand our needs. We have a need for companions who are with us through thick and thin. Whatever state of life we are in, community is everything. I have attended two funerals in the last 4 days. In the midst of these funerals I have had several conversations about life and death.

Life is always worth living, but then again, most of us know this. Whether we are in a season of loss and grief or in a season of joy and laughter. Life is a gift from our Creator and a gift that we should hold carefully each and every day. However, a life lived without the joy of sharing it with another is no life at all. Life in isolation is not a life living up to its design.

All life does come to an end and its in that end that we truly discover what life was all about. Whether we are reading an obituary of events gone by or if we are reminiscing about a parent or a friend or a loved one and all the good times, we know that life is finally realized when it is too late. Those whom we join together with in this life are too often taken for granted until they are gone. Then we realize the emptiness that a friend who is no longer their leaves behind.

Community is everything. If you are not sharing this life with others, think about how you want to be remembered. Do you want to be remembered as someone who shared their life with others or as someone who wasn’t really known? Now’s the time to become exactly who Christ intended you to be. Now is the time to discover what life is all about!

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Reaching the Masses

November 9, 2010 Leave a comment

I love all the conversation about how to effectively minister to so many people at once. Think about this…20 years ago, we could only minister to people whom we were seeing face to face. Hopefully most of you are old enough to remember this time. It was just shortly after the dinosaurs disappeared.

Anyways, nowadays things are very different. We reach people in a number of ways. We reach people through email, through Facebook, through twitter, through blogs and you tube posts, etc. Are any of these effective though? Well, maybe. I think the online world has given us the opportunity to spread a few more seeds. What I mean is we used to have to hand sprinkle the seeds as we went along. Now, the internet has given us an opportunity to utilize a spreader! Ah yes, a giant seed spreader!

Don’t get me wrong, nothing can or should ever replace human contact. I believe that we should really be making our greatest impacts in this way. How can we use both methods effectively? That is the real question.

You probably all have friends and acquaintances that dabble in the online world. Reach out them and then bring them in to real face to face contact. You see, this is the core of the who we are. It’s about the ability to build relationships with one another. It’s sharing the good news with the person right in front of you.

If you are lost in the online world, its time you made contact with flesh and blood. It’s time you responded to how God created you. He did not create you to be alone. And yes, even though you have 800 friends on Facebook, it is possible for you to be alone. We are meant to live in community, we are meant to be in the presence of other people who can know more about us than our activities, our likes and our political and religious view and of course our latest relationship status.

If you are in the Grand Island area, or if you have friends who need to be with people, tell them about our next Group Connection Event on December 12th. Just click on the Group Connection link above. It’s time to show them what real relationships are all about!

Help! I’m a Small Group Leader!

November 8, 2010 Leave a comment

We’ve all been  there. We’re 20 minutes into our group meeting and someone asks a question that sets us into a panic attack! We have no idea how to answer or what to do. We turn blue in the face like someone has just taken the breath away from us. What do we do? What do we say?

Don’t worry. Every leader will at some point face a challenge like this. It’s inevitable. However, it’s important to know where to go with a question like this one. Don’t just shove it under the living room rug and pretend its not there. Believe me, it will turn into the elephant in the room.

Being a leader doesn’t always mean you have all the answers, however, it does mean you are resourceful. It means you know where to get answers or who to speak to in order to get those answers.

Our next LIFE Groups leaders training is in January. This is what we’ll be talking about. We’ll discuss how to deal with various issues both biblically, respectfully, and lovingly.

If you are familiar with these types of situations, I want to hear from you. As a leader, what have you been faced with that takes your breath away? Email me at

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